We're having a very interesting discussion over at Ultra Violet, taking off on my first post there. I put in my views on marriage - rather my disillusion with it as an institution, in spite of my complete satisfaction with my own version of it - and Falstaff, in particular, has some interesting things to say in reply. (I'm tickled pink, as I've been a fan of his blog for some time.)
oh Im reading it and LOVING it.
It is very 'familiar'...and good to realise as Daffyd puts it so eloquently in Little Britain 'Im the only gay in the village'...somehow I have to forever correct people who assume that as I married out of caste/community and into love that I will be pretty gungho on marriage, I am not..I think it was the 'state' (travel for instance...most govts dont acknowledge a defacto, grr) that drives one more to taking the step..and yes family 'then you will be happy'...they dare not say 'settled' considering I was majorly disrupting everyone's lives..I would say its the desire to solidy a friendship that says it is best...I dont think it is a recent thing about finding marriages 'unnatural'...it was always there, people just hid it better or came up with their own arrangements. Now we are just telling.
correction the first line that Im NOT the only 'gay in the village'..there are others tearing at the reins.
Thank you. I'm sure you're right: there has always been dissatisfaction, we can just express it more openly now.
I hate the word 'settled' too! When anyone says that, I say I'm not settled! I have a lot to do, a lot to see! That word seems to imply you've dug in roots and will continue to grow upwards!
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