tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post612214491550710968..comments2023-06-02T20:16:17.995+05:30Comments on Unmana's Words: If Words Aren't Important, Why Don't You Make Up New Ones Instead of Using Others to Say What You Mean and Not What They Are Supposed To?Unmanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02430139387595895191noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-16668047998631821412010-07-03T10:12:05.025+05:302010-07-03T10:12:05.025+05:30Hey Unmana,
You've been tagged! (and I think t...Hey Unmana,<br />You've been tagged! (and I think this is a tag you'd like to do) ;D<br /><br />http://blabberblah.wordpress.com/2010/07/02/un-stereotypically-yours/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-90362983485038053272010-06-30T12:29:57.304+05:302010-06-30T12:29:57.304+05:30shub: I'm not sure if it's an Indian thing...shub: I'm not sure if it's an Indian thing. I think I have heard/seen non-Indians say/write it too, but I can't be sure. <br /><br />Is "going around" not correct either? What is? I like "dating", but it's sometimes not entirely accurate. "Seeing each other"?<br /><br />Sumedha: Ah yes, those days! But I was used to reading novels, so the first time I heard a friend say "He proposed" when I was about thirteen, I went, "What! They're getting married?!"<br /><br />I use 'she' that way too. Of course, when you use the male pronoun, that's just normal: when you use the female, you're being an unreasonable feminist.Unmanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02430139387595895191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-6130671228066049442010-06-30T12:20:44.555+05:302010-06-30T12:20:44.555+05:30Girls and boys started "liking" each oth...Girls and boys started "liking" each other when I was about 13. At that time, all of us would say a guy has "proposed" to a girl when he went and told her that he "liked" her. It wasn't even that he asked the girl out (and in my neighbourhood, the guy was the one who took the first step). He just told the girl that he liked her. If she liked him back, they would become boyfriend and girlfriend. There was no dating, there was no proposing of any kind. But it was still called a proposal.<br /><br />At that time, I used the phrase without thinking about it. It seems so dumb now!!<br /><br />And I'm totally with you on the he/she thing. I've made it a point to usually say "she", which also is a generalisation, but it makes a point to other people. A friend at a temple once smsed me saying "You'll never believe who I met!" My reply said "Did God herself come down and grant you your wishes?" To which he said "You feminist girl". No one would have thought twice if I'd said "God himself".Sumedhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08143819603608847060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-1910228158224245922010-06-30T09:22:16.174+05:302010-06-30T09:22:16.174+05:30Absolutely. The "would" annoys me no end...Absolutely. The "would" annoys me no end. It's an Indian thing, isn't it?<br />As does "affair". The phrase "going around with" too, in fact. I don't know if it is correct usage in the first place.shubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11458071894891481574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-13101911239503471222010-06-29T21:37:12.612+05:302010-06-29T21:37:12.612+05:30Sue: Yes, I think that makes sense. And it also so...Sue: Yes, I think that makes sense. And it also solves the problem of how to refer to trans folk when you may not be sure.Unmanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02430139387595895191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-33624000176792944372010-06-29T15:34:43.372+05:302010-06-29T15:34:43.372+05:30I'm all for replacing the he/she confusion wit...I'm all for replacing the he/she confusion with 'they', 'them' etc. It felt weird when they introduced it but it's simpler in the long run and people do know what you mean.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10819608939555247317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-23130498636470617482010-06-29T15:14:24.992+05:302010-06-29T15:14:24.992+05:30starry: *grin* Maybe I should do it here more ofte...starry: *grin* Maybe I should do it here more often instead of just forcing the poor Guy to listen. <br /><br />You know what, I've noticed recently that some people are so used to "he" that they often use "he" when referring to people who are obviously (from their names) female. *sigh*Unmanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02430139387595895191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-32333786559359379892010-06-29T13:22:25.763+05:302010-06-29T13:22:25.763+05:30Ooooooh...I like you when you're raging...and ...Ooooooh...I like you when you're raging...and I looove your soft dangerous voice. Nice!<br /><br />I tend to alternate he and she or use he/she or s/he. Whyever the hell wouldn't anyone refer to half the population?<br /><br />I ROTFLed at your senior having an affair. That's so common, when people announce their kids''love' marriages..."my son is having an affair and we're marrying him". LOL!starry eyedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02821016011330573083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-56102852262574303772010-06-29T13:04:34.550+05:302010-06-29T13:04:34.550+05:30Sue: inhale, exhale. inhale...
Aneela: Please do....Sue: inhale, exhale. inhale...<br /><br />Aneela: Please do. I'm quite proud of it myself!<br /><br />So it's okay if you say 'he' when it's a mixed crowd but not if you say 'she'? THAT'S the kind of attitude that makes 'he' the norm in the first place.Unmanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02430139387595895191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-74901702149802089262010-06-29T12:48:51.036+05:302010-06-29T12:48:51.036+05:30so with you on the " propose" bit...real...so with you on the " propose" bit...really confusing as I would wonder what was happening to all the commitment phobic people out there.<br />Thanks for the " lets kill bf and live together" example, you do know I am going to quote you on that A LOT.<br /><br />When it comes to the s/he issue, you cannot believe how " he" has become part of our common sense truth...Babycentre alternates between using he and she when it comes to the baby and the other day there was a mom who was really upset. Why do they refer to my son as she, hainjee? I dont like using "it" , the best strategy is to alternate between the two....but there are people who get really mad about it.Aneela Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15266036533025907163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-46167196679825217162010-06-29T12:13:00.975+05:302010-06-29T12:13:00.975+05:30Woah, breathe, girl. I'll link to this in my u...Woah, breathe, girl. I'll link to this in my update today. Thanks for mentioning 'propose' and 'affair'. Those have bugged me <i>forever</i>.Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10819608939555247317noreply@blogger.com