tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post5615991856252978959..comments2023-06-02T20:16:17.995+05:30Comments on Unmana's Words: To Women Who Think about Changing their Names after MarriageUnmanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02430139387595895191noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-10066073754163943142009-07-03T01:18:51.544+05:302009-07-03T01:18:51.544+05:30I know! It really is sad but fortunately, this is ...I know! It really is sad but fortunately, this is the only thing I did to keep them happy! The husband and I refused to change anything else in my life after marriage. It was one moment at that time, we had to succumb but seeing how obviously I was upset about it. <br />I know the ILs would've freaked out if the husband even thought about changing anything forget the name. <br />But then, now things are better. I don't care what else my ILs want me to change, I will change it only if I want it to. :)Rohinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14071269978849635702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-84794886727590433212009-07-02T15:24:21.663+05:302009-07-02T15:24:21.663+05:30oh it definitely works out for me that its baby na...oh it definitely works out for me that its baby name-my name-dad's name as baby is refered to as baby name my name in most records hee heeAneela Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15266036533025907163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-16069099406559822912009-07-02T12:07:02.861+05:302009-07-02T12:07:02.861+05:30@lankr1ta: I have the same thoughts too. Personall...@lankr1ta: I have the same thoughts too. Personally, I feel you can give the kid both names and then (s)he can choose when (s)he grows up. <br /><br />Bones: Exactly!<br /><br />Rohini, Nits: Isn't it sad that you have to do that to 'keep your ILs happy'? I wonder how they'd feel if your husband said he was changing his name to make your parents happy!<br /><br />Lostonthestreet: Sindhis do it, apparently, and I guess there are others too. I had a maid once whose in-laws had her change her first name after she got married - though she used her earlier one when I knew her: might have something to do with the fact that her husband had died.<br /><br />And the kids can decide which name to keep, no?Unmanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02430139387595895191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-80903140236876208472009-07-02T11:00:38.783+05:302009-07-02T11:00:38.783+05:30Oh wow, I didn't know people change names too...Oh wow, I didn't know people change names too-in which community?<br />but this concept of husband's last name +wife's last name..can be very distressing ,after 2 generations- the combination will be mind boggling.:-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-36893494768468647592009-07-02T09:34:44.112+05:302009-07-02T09:34:44.112+05:30I am with you on this.. I hate when someone calls ...I am with you on this.. I hate when someone calls me as Mrs husbandsLastName. But since my marriage was 'lil complicated some how I felt <b>obliged</b> to change my name. But as I didn't really want to I did it half heartedly and didn't change it everywhere. I never intend to do it either.Nitu Saksenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15332856256349739512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-82282688560745816372009-07-02T08:58:18.033+05:302009-07-02T08:58:18.033+05:30My name was changed but only for the marriage cert...My name was changed but only for the marriage certificate.. to keep the ILs happy. My passport carries MY name and I intend to keep it that way coz its a little difficult to get used to another name at this age. The husband insisted I keep my surname and add his as a suffix on the certificate too. But somehow that did not work out. Anyway, no plans of changing my name from our end.. and now I don't even care that the ILs might bother.Rohinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14071269978849635702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-29788504994939234052009-07-02T08:12:07.356+05:302009-07-02T08:12:07.356+05:30What is this with the husband 'allowing' h...What is this with the husband 'allowing' his wife to keep her last name? What is there to allow - is the wife a possession? I've kept my last name and my daughter has my last name as her middle name...Yes Alankrita, why can't the husband's name come before the wife's?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-46000614184364595832009-07-02T08:09:11.434+05:302009-07-02T08:09:11.434+05:30Oh, btw someone had asked me "Did K allow you...Oh, btw someone had asked me "Did K allow you to keep your name" and I replied with "Yes and I allowed him to keep his".Dr. Ally Critterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04191162451745534259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-33539139746395241902009-07-02T08:05:49.712+05:302009-07-02T08:05:49.712+05:30You know in the double barrel last name for the ki...You know in the double barrel last name for the kids in cases like ours where we do not change our names, I have always wondered why the kid gets saddled with mum's-lastname-dad's-lastname always, never the other way round? Is the fathers last name the childs, ultimately?<br /><br />Personally, when I have a kid, I am determined to give it either mine or Ks name as a last name- should a last name be a necessity. Else the child can be its own name - no last names at all.Dr. Ally Critterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04191162451745534259noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-46267209926135871542009-07-02T07:18:43.775+05:302009-07-02T07:18:43.775+05:30What's with docs being so insensitive? You'...What's with docs being so insensitive? You'd have thought they'd know better, given that they're well-educated and all...Unmanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02430139387595895191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22942201.post-8034565090709955952009-07-02T06:54:30.047+05:302009-07-02T06:54:30.047+05:30oh yes Im with you...I had Arhaan's doc (ex-do...oh yes Im with you...I had Arhaan's doc (ex-doc now!) telling his assistant "another one of those double barrel names" (it was the WAY he said it that ticked me off in particular)...even now people refer to my husband as Mr Babar as they just dont get it that we have our own names. Logo ka bus chaley they will ask us to change our blood group to our IL's after marriage.Aneela Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15266036533025907163noreply@blogger.com