A well-read, articulate young woman friend tells me - about a character in a story I asked her to read - that she thought he was "a good guy, because he didn't go ahead and have sex with her anyway."
An educated, independent woman's definition of a good guy: someone who is not a rapist.
That assumes most men are potential rapists. And on behalf of men, I am outraged.
But it is insulting men to imply that they can't be really good, that the most they can be is not-rapists.
There are men like the Guy, who wouldn't ever willingly take advantage of another's vulnerability; who treat women as equals; who might not always get it, but who try, and learn. Men who try to be honest, and kind, and thoughtful.
That is the standard I want. Not the other.
3 comments:
Sigh. I'm outraged too.
Whoever said the patriarchy was good for men?
Hey ur blog is some thing differnt from others u mixed up all the feelings its like fingers crossed by the end . What i want to say is u had many friends and friends of their own style but i wanna say some thing its honest person or good person who actually exist not honest men or good men ......
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